Comments on With Brook Lynne in Mind: why do we judge STRIPPERS, and not their customers...

i totally agree with you,,and i don't think ev...

2009-12-18T23:43:50.226-05:00

i totally agree with you,,and i don't think every dancer out there is forced to get a job like that because they desperately need money.
who cares what everyone says,,in the end its your life,,not there's.
i personally do it because i love dancing its not my job its my career and i literally dreamed of being an exotic dancer since i was a young teen,,i didn't choose it,,it chose me.and if im happy doing what i do then that's all that matters,,people who judge us dancers are the ones who are unhappy with there own lives.

This is like saying why do we judge drug dealers a...

2009-06-17T17:30:53.354-04:00

This is like saying why do we judge drug dealers and not the customers. With out a stripper shakin her ass (and I ain't hatin, I love me some booty shakin), there would be no customers. As long as chick need cash, there will be bootys shaking from city to city. We judge you because many of yall (not you brook) are nasty, stank hoes, that will also have sex for money. And we all know that to be a good stripper you gotta have some playa in ya, cause yall will play a nigga all night, make a nigga feel special and then BAMM - chopped and screwed. Love you Brook, keep doing your thang!

Anonymous #1 --- You need to 1) get a life 2)stop...

2009-06-08T14:17:41.223-04:00

Anonymous #1 ---
You need to 1) get a life 2)stop hating on females who are on the grind.3)Stop claiming your "real" when clearly you have to hide behind your computer to prove your case.
you must be sad & alone. Come from behind the comp. && show your face.

Here's the definition of real. apparently your not quite clear on what it means.

"REAL-not merely ostensible, nominal, or apparent:
Being an actual thing; having objective existence; not imaginary:

Your posting ANONYMOUS: I wouldn't call you real."

Ok your college educated && successful? your point? who's 2 say these women who "strip" aren't college educated, already have a "career" && looking for extra cash?
Why slander someone who is getting money? Who gives a flying f**k if she "strips" or works at McDonald's? SHE is GETTING MONEY.

I find it admirable that she has the guts 2 get up in front of a group of people && dance...I would "strip" if my ass wasn't flat && I had some rhythm.

Did I say dance?
since when does dancing automatically make someone
a "HOE or SLUT?"

In that case I guess every woman in the world that goes to a club is now considered a hoe/slut.

Strippers are just girls dancing in bikini's ...hmmmm now do you wear a bikini to the beach? I guess that means your also a hoe/slut.

You say these women "degrade" themselves? how? yes there are SOME women who do have sex with the "ballers, athletes, && after they leave the club have sex with men for money --- keyword - LEAVE, in other words get off work, && what they do on their personal time is their business. That doesn't mean all strippers do this. Maybe the females who you have known/know that strip or have stripped are some of the ones who helped give "strippers" the hoe/slut title.So you automatically damn all strippers?
its time you meet new friends. or maybe your just allergic to REAL people?
Maybe you have never been exposed to real... always remember "Real bitches do real things"

------Brook do the damn thing && ignore ignorant simple minded people who clearly have nothing better to do but hate, and slander another for their own insecurities in attempt to make their sad little lives much more happier. Get your money however you choose. Its YOUR life not hers.

If anyone has any issues with what I have said heres my facebook: http://www.facebook.com/home.php?ref=logo#/profile.php?id=1621243608&ref=profile
or my personal email : LaurenBalde@yahoo.com

brook why did you choose to dance? when do you pla...

2009-06-07T03:58:15.997-04:00

brook why did you choose to dance? when do you plan to stop..jus curious...tryna get into the mind of a stripper

Yall some fuckin fools u think dancers don't f...

2009-06-05T15:21:43.650-04:00

Yall some fuckin fools u think dancers don't fuck for money...not all but some of them do. A lot of gold diggers dont open their legs for money and some do too! Get the fuck with it before u speak on it!

i have always wondered how ppl can go in a strip c...

2009-06-05T13:54:13.363-04:00

i have always wondered how ppl can go in a strip club and drop hundred upon thousands of dollas to complete strangers... i do agree that in alot of cases when it cums to bein a hustla strippers are smart for gettin their money in a very easy way. the strip club could be viewed as a profound profession if their wasnt such a stigma behind sexual exploitation; magic city is viewed as one of the most famous clubs in america however the rinky dink clubs stemming from that place gives the profession a bad name. They say one rotten apple dont spoil the bunch but it looks like it has.

Strippin gets a bad name cuz of some women who used this as what u call a choice as a need of survival so they will go above and beyond for a dolla and that what makes stripping bad not the stripper or act itsself but the way people go about it. Cuz any act can be viewed as bad when negativity is keeping it alive.

I dont judge strippers because i do feel its a choice and not every stripper is a hoe. However I wudnt want my child to be a stripper becuz its not a healthy or positive environemnt becuz of all the rotten apples and I do believe ur aware of that. Sumtimes I dont think its any less than regular dancers the only difference is the amount of clothes worn but the purpose is the same, entertainment.

I also feel the customers of the strip club give it a bad name becuz sum of them feel its ok to disrespect the strippers and look down on them as just sex objects. Truth be told on a positive note if i had the body to be a stripper i wud think twice of doing it becuz it seems fun and im so far from a hoe or anything of that sort. however I do feel that stripping shud be an option of last resort jus becuz of the struggles and bad reputation the lifestyle can bring on u. Of course u go in there to make ur money but u have to fight to make people see u beyond being all about sex all the time and that is why i wish women like u didnt have to strip. You are in a profession that isnt as positive as it needs to be and for that u deserve to be doing something better and thats the reason why i feel stripping isnt a good look for everyone. You are smart, beautiful and down to earth and its such a burden that u jus cant say ima exotic dancer 2 ppl with out them having to judge u first. Stripping isnt the worst profession but it isnt the best and Im glad u created this blog becuz it allows ppl to see a different side to stripping. Hopefully stripping will not be ur only claim to fame and i do think ur niche is writing so good luck with that as well and i wud buy ur book if u ever choose to write one!

A few of these Anon comments are absurd....... To ...

2009-06-04T23:24:54.416-04:00

A few of these Anon comments are absurd.......
To the anon saying their educated and money motivated, got a man and all that jazz......you have yet to put a check next to SECURE with SELF. Use your “educated” mind to really ponder that. Brook didn’t exactly come knocking on your door with this question, you came looking for it……
As for the other anon (if you are indeed two different posters) “REAL” women don’t really need to verbalize how “real” they are. Their example (in this case their words) will most certainly speak for themselves. Your comments reek of insecurity.
“REAL” and “EDUCATED” women recognize their blessings and reach out to those they truly feel are on the wrong path. They don’t flaunt their arrogance around and say “HEY LOOK AT ME I’M BETTER THAN YOU”. So ladies, you may not be shaking your ass for all to see, but it seems to me like you have a much more serious problem lurking inside.
As for the original subject at hand, I think people judge strippers because they’re easy prey. There are all sorts of stigmas attached to the word “stripper”. But at the end of the day, we all have to make choices that are best suited to our needs and it’s really no one’s business why we make them. :-)

Ok, adult entertainment was made for just that...a...

2009-06-04T18:47:09.767-04:00

Ok, adult entertainment was made for just that...adults. If you can not handle it..shet the fuck UP and grow up..People blow me when they live and speak through their narrow minded thoughts and mental restrictions.

If you dislike adult entertainers, then why are you wasting your time and energy reflecting on it? Revert that energy to something else..like YOUR life.

Keep'em coming Brooke.
Bay biz all day.
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Women who judge strippers and label strippers as &...

2009-06-04T00:36:23.554-04:00

Women who judge strippers and label strippers as "slutty, whores, etc." are the same ones sexing so & so for shoes and to keep their lights on. In many ways lil girls, you are just like strippers except you have to lay down and spread your legs & risk yourself to disease.

THAT IS TOTALLY FALSE MISS. TOTALLY. IM NOT EVEN GOING TO ENTERTAIN IT...THAT FIRST SENTENCE IS TOTALLY BONKERS, LOL...

Anonymous # 1

Your comments are a bit contradictary . How can a man get "slutted on" but yet not be practicing in some form of self deprecation? If I pay you 100 dollars to let me pee on you are we not both degrading ourselves? Now granted you would have pee on your face, but come on I'm not walking away from that situation looking any better.

LONG STORY SHORT, EXAMPLE: THE CUSTOMERS PAYING THEM TO "degrade themselves". REGARDLESS, THEY ARE THE ONES ACTING IT OUT. AND I KNOW YOU GET WHAT I'M SAYING MINUS THE CONTRADICTION I'M SURE.

The comments are hilarious. But its good to know that there are others, Ms T, who also think civil.

Nice post! I see no problem with strippers...I tak...

2009-06-03T21:31:41.572-04:00

Nice post! I see no problem with strippers...I take classes to learn some of the moves. There will always be judgement...don't entertain it.

I believe the reason people (myself included) judg...

2009-06-02T22:18:29.735-04:00

I believe the reason people (myself included) judge strippers (female and male) is because it is not a profession to be proud of. No one said become a stripper when you grow up, its at the bottom of the totem pole, a last resort, like a drug dealer, a thief, a no other option gig. (Pls remember these are just MY thoughts)

SEX SELLS!!! If we are not thinking about it or doing it, we are damn sure feeding our animal nature to it. I DO judge strippers I know someone who does it, I have seen strippers at a private party and some of them do not just take their clothes. Some of them are whores.

A whore is not glorified in any society that I know of so of course it is looked down upon. Now for those who participate, they are keeping strippers in business, because your professional life is their entertainment. (so it is not a confusion or double standard, it something enjoyable to pay for, like paying for too much alcohol, blame it on the goose)

I get why people choose the profession, it is just not a road I want to travel. If at the end of the day you wake up and dig who you are, look at yourself in the mirror and say I am a bad chick or I'm that dude, shit, it doesn't matter what I think, because we all judge people all day long, it's human nature (well at least mine, and everyone knows if you see someone in something that doesn't appeal to your eye, you say WTF).

and will people please stop with the "what yo...

2009-06-02T21:35:09.472-04:00

and will people please stop with the "what you wont do for your man the next women will" ok i believe that statement but not when it comes to strippers...cause Brook you say you and most strippers dont trick off so what is a man getting by going to a stripper he isnt geting at home? a shaking naked behind?? um WOW BIG DEAL last i checked you cant bust a nut from that- so if guys are going to the strip club cause he missing something at home he is trying to fuck- and then see the questions that Brook hates to hear listed below- thats why they ask them to get to know the stripper so they can fuck

My problem is you seem to think that all women tha...

2009-06-02T21:29:07.433-04:00

My problem is you seem to think that all women that arent a part of the strip lifestyle are haters or prudes. No maybe we just dont want strange men looking at us naked and then having to grind on them and get all sweaty for $20.Maybe we want to save our naked bodies and all our grinding for a man we love and genuinely are turned on by. Maybe we dont want the judgement that comes with the job. I think the judgement is your repurcussion for choosing a quick money hustle that requires you to take off your clothes- just like celebs have to deal with paparazzi- you have to deal with being labeled a hoe. Thats the hand off sweets. You can be working anywhere else- and if you love to hustle every company has openings in sales. But you choose to take off your clothes- its judged because from the time us girls were able to sit up right we were told to cross our legs, sit like a lady, dont let boys see your stuff, dont let boys touch you there, ect. So u see its always going to be seen as a job that compromises your morals and standards. Our bodies are our temples so to sell them is always going to be looked down upon. I think that every stripper has their price- alot of regular women do as well- but guess what? Us regular chicks arent being given indecent proposals every night like a stripper is. But thanks for bringing this up- I always like reading you and your readers opinions

And yet again, I am not hating. I just want to voi...

2009-06-02T20:37:56.175-04:00

And yet again, I am not hating. I just want to voice my opinion. It was ASKED.

Long story short, at the age of 26 - I am successful, don't want/need for anything, I am not a jump off, nor a gold digger, I'm in a committed relationship, and not to mention, I'm well established... I don't do tips, I don't do lap dances, I don't spin around poles.

College educated, money motivated. I get mine ... but ummmm, I just don't shake my ass for a living. Mama raised me better than that.

The end.

Brook you need to write a book about all those LAM...

2009-06-02T19:57:04.467-04:00

Brook you need to write a book about all those LAME ass celebrities that come into your spot(I know a few) and try to trick off on you and be with you(sexually or d-low dating), but they are too afraid of what the world will say. So they hide behind their money and talk shit about strippers like they don't want nothing to do with them. BUT WE KNOW THE TRUTH!
Now that would make a good read...
But then again, if you did that somebody would be on here hating on how you telling the celebrities business like Karrine did. Although the men in her book were adults and willingly participated in the sexual acts with her.
Last time I checked everybody that enters the strip club has to be of legal age...meaning grown. If everybody is grown...then what the fuck is the problem?
Does Brooklyn occupation affect your life that much?...SERIOUSLY?

Ok soooo, I feel like commenting again! :) Lemme ...

2009-06-02T18:12:34.517-04:00

Ok soooo, I feel like commenting again! :)

Lemme give yall another way to perceive this situation:

-"Strippers" are nothing more than entertainers...regardless of what they may do or not do on the side. Entertainers in general are usually seen in a bad light. So regardless of your choice of concentration within the entertainment indusrty, people will more than likely dislike your career but fantasize about having it themselves.
-This whole douple standard situation is basically rhetorical because it's a given (DUH!)...no need to continue to debate on it, it'll NEVER change! I like to look @ it as being that no matter how many "rights" we as woman may receive, we will never measure up to a man. We MAY be more intellectual and/or business savy & etc. in some cases but men were created first so they will always SEEM to have the upper hand in things. It may not be right but IT'S LIFE!

That's all I have to say....for now! :o)

I am reading and what I am hearing is not from any...

2009-06-02T18:09:34.109-04:00

I am reading and what I am hearing is not from anyone who has really been consider a "Regular", by girls at a club. SMH.. I am a regular, meaning I've know girls who have danced for years, some have even become good friends on a personal level, lovers, friends and business partners.

While I love a women who's a go getter, to answer the question about being judge for dancing or as a customer, no of the above are exactly true.

Strippers/Dancers aren't judged, it's all in their head. They feel that way because inside they want more from a man then just his money. Except they been set up and know there's nothing they can do about it, so the concept of being judge is a easy way to rebel as a means of accepting what you don't want. To be have casual relationships.

Men who pay for sex or go to strip clubs are judged all the time. It's consider a less then masculine role as a man, who is to be entitled to a beautiful woman/women, regardless of his looks or amount of money.

So if you feel judged then stop, that's the only way to deal with it. They're lots of ways to make a lot of money fast. Stockbrokers make good money and it's not as much work as you think. Plus you can do it with your clothes off. They will get a kick out of that in any office.. Trust me..

Women who judge strippers and label strippers as &...

2009-06-02T18:08:26.942-04:00

Women who judge strippers and label strippers as "slutty, whores, etc." are the same ones sexing so & so for shoes and to keep their lights on. In many ways lil girls, you are just like strippers except you have to lay down and spread your legs & risk yourself to disease. Yes, there are girls out there who are doing the strip thing because they like it, or because they can't get enough of the "fast money". But then there are WOMEN who do it to take care of their churen, to put themselves through school without anyone's FAFSA, or to put a down payment on a house without any banks help or hell to even splurge on a damn pair of red bottoms without even once looking at a price tag. So while lil miss anonymous you are gracing Ms. Brooky's page with all of this hate, it is because deep down inside, you wish you could do what they do on their worst day.

Will the judgement cease? Never. Why? Because society's image is at the power of man. The strippers will be judged because according to man, all women should be pure, dainty, and in someone's kitchen making dinner. With this view, he has corrupted all holier-than-thou-women to think this is true, so it is she who is casting all judgement.

But yet, women who go to male strip clubs are looked at as desperate and lonely -by men- because they have to pay a man to shake his prickster in their face. Go figure.

Anonymous # 1 Your comments are a bit contradicta...

2009-06-02T16:59:19.732-04:00

Anonymous # 1

Your comments are a bit contradictary . How can a man get "slutted on" but yet not be practicing in some form of self deprecation? If I pay you 100 dollars to let me pee on you are we not both degrading ourselves? Now granted you would have pee on your face, but come on I'm not walking away from that situation looking any better.

Anonymous #1 that keeps coming back to write on Br...

2009-06-02T16:30:34.531-04:00

Anonymous #1 that keeps coming back to write on Brooks blog.

One you disrespecting and who's "jumping down her throat"? obviously we're not downing her if we're supporting her. some of the people on this blog are the same people i see talk to her and support her on a day to day.
the real question is if she's not a grown women then why the hell are you reading a "little girls" blog??

i don't get people like you that cast judgment without truly knowing the person. yea she might stay stripping is a hard life... shoot i hear about some of the stuff they go through, but she also makes it clear in her blogs that she doesn't do some of the things that other strippers do and she's thankful for that.

you don't know if she has a 2nd job or not or if she's in school. she didn't give you all of that info so why are you so quick to say "Can you not succeed in any other area?" ?? && at the end of the day she walks out that bitch with her head held high because she's not ashamed of what she's doing.

you're eyes are closed to the real world. you can't truly make the statements you're making unless you've walked in her shoes or atleast have held a conversation with her. i just think you have alot to learn and alot of growing to do. it's the real world baby open your eyes!

::Ty:: ::BrwnEyesLie::
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I believe that people judge strippers because peop...

2009-06-02T14:08:02.668-04:00

I believe that people judge strippers because people love to judge women who are displaying strong sexual vibes and society has been honed to disapprove of such behavior. Men have displayed an attitude that women like strippers, dancers, etc are not "wife" material therefore women adopted the attitude and thought they were better if they wasn't like the "stripper" yet they do not look at the source-the man who is therefore judging the stripper and making up the rules. It succks and I hope that mens perception can be changed because unfortunately whatever men think what a "good" woman is so will women.

Hey Brook, It's ::BrwnEyesLie:: also known as ::Ty...

2009-06-02T13:35:12.457-04:00

Hey Brook,
It's ::BrwnEyesLie:: also known as ::Ty the Music Head:: i haven't commented on your blogs before but this one got to me.

Okay first off I want to put it out there if anyone has a prob with what i'm about to say twitter me (twitter.com/brwneyeslie) because i won't bite my tongue to spare anyones feelings.

Here we go. First off a real woman wouldn't be afraid to step in the strip club. Instead of bashing on what the hell strippers do a real woman like me would be showing support. It takes a real woman to get up there and make it do what it do to cont. to provide for hers.

I'm not going to lie I have thought about stripping, but i dance like a white girl. haha But i would waitress at Magic City any day of the week.

If yall gone hate on strippers please get on the niggas who are paying them. That's a friggin double standard.

NOW 2nd - I don't see how you can't support strippers in the choice they make. Just like you support ya friend for working at MickyD's you need to support all women that are getting a pay check. Plus Also of strippers are more educated then these hoodrats that are trying to get a NBA player or Rapper that they can live off of. HA Got ya there didn't I? Yea beeeshes we can talk about yall if you want us to.

ANYWAY I'm OUT!

Brook, I admire you because you're real about your shit. You're not ashamed of what you do. You take the ish and judgment people cast down on you and that makes me have s0o much respect for you.

FUCK A HATER!

::Ty:: ::BrwnEyesLie:::

omg i'm feeling you so much on this. as someone wh...

2009-06-02T13:00:43.162-04:00

omg i'm feeling you so much on this. as someone who works in the sex sells game lol. i get a lot of shit from guys. it's such a double standard it's not even funny. well it is cause i'm the bitch laughing as i DRIVE to the bank, from my own apartment. niggas just need to feel better about themselves.

Let me tell you something. Most of the "Men," if t...

2009-06-02T12:51:52.095-04:00

Let me tell you something. Most of the "Men," if that's what you want to call them that, who frequent strip clubs and look down on the VERY PEOPLE who they are throwing their money to; rich or broke, white or black, are weak minded individuals. Let me explain myself. These "people" come to the strip club and in their INFINITE ignorance, believe that they are the ones with the power because they have the MONEY. The "men" you describe in you blog only look down on you all because they look down upon themselves. They want to feel as sense of empowerment, by belittling you and the other "Well to do" dancers.

Let's be real, when a guy comes to the strip club, he's basically tricking his money. I'm not down playing that shit, because I frequent strip clubs myself, but I'm a businessman and I respect a businesswoman who's serious about her profession no matter what that business is.

And I'm not going to even talk about the "Women" who hate on dancers! (yeah, I said it!!) because most of these women who hate on strippers do things that'll make a stripper look like a catholic Nun! They REALLY need to check themselves before they try to check someone else. These women who hate are some of the most IGNORANT WOMEN I've seen in my life! They should NOT even exist to you. These "women," if that's what you want to call them, they sold their body and lifestyle to a man just to have them ride down the road and have you fulfill the need that they couldn't do. That pisses them off, but who's fault is that? It doesn't look like it's your fault.

You shouldn't let it get to you because the reality of the matter is, they don't REALLY LOOK DOWN ON YOU! THEY HATE THEMSELVES, THEY HATE THE LIVES THAT THEY LIVE, and they want you to feel the same way because they KNOW, AT THE END OF THE DAY, they are SMALL when it comes to the bigger picture of things. These men AND women are SHEEP. When these men step into the strip club, the dancers are now their shepherd. A sheep always wants more power than they have so the sheep will ALWAYS try to reverse the roles and try to gain power over someone even if it's only for a few hours, but in REALITY. Who's winning, You or Them?!....Check your wallet and tell me if I'm wrong.. lol ;-)

I rest my case. :)

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LOL at y'all coming all hard on me. For the recor...

2009-06-02T01:58:37.015-04:00

LOL at y'all coming all hard on me.

For the record, I was born and raised in the A thanks for your concern.

Second, I don't need dick. Please believe that is always taken care of. But again, thanks for your concern.

It's so funny that y'all are so quick to jump down her throat, agreeing with her when y'all the same ones who probably knock it as well. Don't front!

And Brook you know you wish you could do something else with your life. You have said it in your blogs, its a lot of bad that come with this job. If its a lot of bad - why don't you let it go? Is the money that good? Can you not succeed in any other area? Or are you just fond of shaking your ass for the next man? At the end of the night - how do YOU feel?

My point is, we judge strippers because they give us reasons to. You wouldn't have even asked the damn question if you didn't expect an answer like this. 50% of the female population in the A are strippers are out there trying to get off on the next man. Just like your co-signer states "what the next bitch will".. Why can't you just get your own..

Of course the dancing industry is not gonna cease. Why? Because a man can go there and get slutted on and leave for the price of a dollar. But guess what - we don't judge him(or her) -because they aren't the ones degrading themselves. You are..So therefore you will be judged by all.

In the end, you're the one who takes your clothes off and shake your ass for a dollar. And for that, you are not a real woman "BROOK" - a real woman don't have to do that. Girl, indeed.com has much more to offer you. Follow my lead.