Stray Cats.
8.16.2010
"Stray Cats" is the name I call new & clingy acquaintances.
For one, these are usually women. And it seems very natural for them to just cling to you socially, and pick up your jargon and/or style, thinking a slight imitation of you is impressive.
They want to impress you because they want to stay in your circle and good graces.
They don't have a lot of real friends, if any. They have a revolving door of people they associate with and they're often the "associate" that is cut off.
Stray Cats just want to be accepted. They want a home, and someone to like them back, hence the clingy-ness.
They're only considered "cool" by SOME outsiders because most of who they are, and what they do, has been adapted from the homes (friends) they have been in and out of.
Which also means, they have no real identity. And when their identity surfaces, which is a Stray Cat, they are, again, abandoned.
Be careful of Stray Cats, their best interest is themselves not you. They're roaming around finding some new clique to be a part of, or some trend to exaggerate. They're not your real friend and they never will be. Stray Cats are usually always concealing some kind of lameness that got them abandoned in the first place. They want to use you for your hospitality.
Friendship is not charity. It is earned. Leave the Stray Cats alone.
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Very well written Brook. Touche.
:-)
see.....i told someone that a few years back and they called me mean. I have been referring to these types of females as strays since the 10th grade.
I explained to my husband 2 years ago why i dont invite these types of females to stay for dinner, "you dont feed stray cats, then you can never get rid of them".
Thank you for letting me know im not alone
Dang Brook you went hard...that's so on point. Annoying as it may be I think sometimes it's a compliment when people want to imitate your style.
absolute truth, well done Brooky !!
Loved this and I think that is a good name to call these girls. Everyone knows a few stray cats but do they know if they are one as well? Good post doll.
Wow! I know someone just like this!
Love it!! You found the PERFECT name for em, LOL.
pow! & im referring this post to a host of strays eager for 'new friends' on FB.
Girl this is the story of my f*ckin' life...usually the stray cats will try to get in your friendship circle and actually attempt to BECOME you.
There is only one orginator...the rest are imitation. At best. SMDH
Had to repost to FACEBOOK!!! Love it Brook
Clever, it's always that one random chick.
A- to the Men. I am def going to spread the word on this because it is so true! Im very careful about who I keep in my corner. Many think I am a mysterious friend because of the life I live, and they find themselves so intrigued into wanting to be my friend. Its too bad I close my doors really quick; therefore, there isnt a chance a cat can come in let alone a fly. My man who is very social and loved by many used to think for a few years that it was me that had the anti-social issue going on because I do not surround myself around many females. Now that he had been around to see how many stray cats are around he now understands why I stick to what I do and how I do.
I have never been a fan of animals.
I used to visit alot and then along the way I sort of dropped off, but after Brian posted something about this entry I had to return. I will be bookmarking you ONCE again my dahling, LOVE IT
For a grown women who is so well articulated you really need to grow up!
You basically wrote a thesis on a topic that a high school student who argue about.
Who cares?! Concentrate on loving your family, your current friends and most of all yourself and stop lamenting on trivial bullshit.
C'mon now!
Wait so it's a problem if a woman seeks out new friends. Wasn't everyone a stranger to their circle of friends before they became friends. Yes, some people are clingy but their intent isn't always malicious. Truth be told, while your trying to clown the "stray cat" you may want to pay closer attention to the people in your current circle who you THINK are your friends. Feel me? I love how us women support each other. I know clingy people, but rather than talk about them, I embrace it. Maybe there is some hidden reason why people cling. Doesn't always have to be a bad thing. It only becomes a bag thing, when you think you are too good. Although I can't be a friend to everyone, I don't have to be mean either. I don't get the judgment talk. This subject seems very juvenile. Still love your blog though. I guess we will have to agree to disagree on this one.
Signed,
A Mature Adult
man this is one of your best pieces so far..my circle is so small air can barely get in...i have been used and burned too many times...thanks now i have a name for these stray cats LOL
You definitely prove a valid point-many women have ulterior motives, and I have been burned before by girls who were quick to try to come into my life...and just as quick to screw me over.
HOWEVER, I disagree about the part where you say that they are ALL concealing some type of "lameness" that got them abandoned in the first place.
The rest of the article is great, but that part sounds very judgemental and it makes you sound catty and full of yourself.
YES, some of these girls may in fact be concealing some type of lameness, whether it's backstabbing tendencies or boyfriend-stealing, etc.
But maybe other women come off as "clingy" unintentionally, or because of personal reasons.
I was abandoned at birth, and when I was younger, before I truly grew into myself, I probably came off as somewhat clingy in some relationships. Was I concealing some "lameness" or personality flaw? No... I don't think that I was abandoned at birth because I was LAME, that's definitely a stretch.
I think this article was truly meant to express your opinion on fickle women and fair-weathered friends, that's great, and I truly commend you.
But at the same time, this article could easily come off as an attempt to try to make yourself look like some sort of VIP celebrity or Queen Bee snubbing other women, which is why some comments are basically saying "get over yourself".
Remember...when you are attractive and successful, people are going to be drawn to you. But don't fall into the trap of thinking that every girl who is nice to you is "trying to be you".
PrettyinPink
Being abandoned at birth, and being abandoned because of sketchy motives as an ADULT, are two different things. I think the dialog was pretty clearl, but in case it wasn't, I was not talking about helpless abandonment. I don't even know how you found that relative to this post.
PrettyinPink
Being abandoned at birth, and being abandoned because of sketchy motives as an ADULT, are two different things. I think the dialog was pretty clearl, but in case it wasn't, I was not talking about helpless abandonment. I don't even know how you found that relative to this post.
My mother has always used this term "stray cats" for the exact same reason every since I can remember. I told her about this post and she laughed and said "see!"
She always had to fuss at me about this b/c I am definitely a magnet for them. I always end up feeling sorry for them and letting them be my friend. Then the next thing I am hearing/seeing my whole dialect, demeanor, and style on someone else. ANNOYING as fuck b/c I put a great deal of effort and thought into not being cookie cutter and to have someone steal it ugh. In the end I see why they don't have friends or the ones they do have ignore them. Now I am definitely practicing "choosing my friends not letting them choose me."
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