Pick One.
1.28.2010

Ok, why is this not hard for me? If I had to pick two, I'd pick "good looking" and "intelligent".
First lets address the Good Looking aspect. Image is everything, whether we like it or not. It consumes the reason of judgment from others 90% of the time. How we look is a presentation. Now I'm not talking drop dead stunning gorgeous. I'm talking someone who is well put together and appealing. Being good looking doesn't mean you have to be a Ford model. It just shows that you put effort into your appearance. And people can tell and appreciate when you're putting energy into your presence. I don't liken myself to a Megan Fox, or Halle Berry. But I do try to be pleasing and not too hard on the eye. And I would prefer that over being unattractive any day. That may sound shallow, but if I had the choice of choosing whats easier, then that is what I would do. And being good looking, usually helps rather than hinders, most of the time.
Second choice..Intelligence. I think this choice goes without saying. When I learn something new, I'm always so eager to pass it on. That is why I remain a novice at most things I experience. I'm open to new knowledge, constantly. Intelligence doesn't just rest on collegiate attributes or the encyclopedia Britannica. Going through everyday relations and activity can nourish the reasoning's going on in your head. Most of the things I'v learned have been from other great minds and findings. Which all leads to better understanding and appreciation for growth and intelligence. So, therefore if I could wake up and have the ultimate intellect, then DAMN IT, I would!
The reason I did NOT pick emotionally stable, is probably because I don't know what that really means. One of the most bitter sweet things about me is that I am emotional. I'm carefree with my feelings and don't mind expressing them as I see fit. I'm not implosive in the least bit, as a matter of fact I think that it is unhealthy. So, to me, I think there is no such thing. You can't stabilize emotion, only your actions. If you're in l-ve, try controlling that. If you're furious, try controlling that. You can not. But what you can control is, how you deal with it. Kicking a wall, is probably more responsible than kicking some one's ass. But kicking a wall doesn't mean that you are any less angry, just means you channeled it differently. Being emotionally stable, for me, would mean, taking that long journey down the yellow brick road, to Oz, to find a heart. If you have the ability to feel, or have any kind of sensation towards something or some ONE, just know that you can't control that. Point being, there wasn't three options for me. Being emotionally stable isn't real to me. If it was, than I guess it would be like..being numb. And I'm not feeling that.
No pun intended.

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Well said Brooky. Interestingly enough I chose the same two. I agree that looks are important. Intelligence is important because I enjoy learning new things and it is a complete turn on. As far as emotionally stable as a Pisces my emotions are all over the place and I usually wear them on my sleeves. So how dare I request such from my mate that I myself can not deliver.
Yay 1st.
I agree with your choices and really I agree with the entire post. Being emotionally stable seems like it could also translate into being cold and or heartless, and who wants that in a companion or hell even a friend. So yes good looks and intelligence reign supreme. Good looks stimulate the eyes and intelligence stimulates the mind.
you must have never met a guy that acted bipolar before then...its F*n tough. I would pick emotionally stable and good looking.
I agree with you because before people even get to know you, or hear you speak -- they already are passing judgment off your appearence .. Intellect is always a plus .. so being pretty as hell and smart as hell is heaven sent .. my only issue with this .. being pretty and smart and having emotional issues is very much a bad thing .. but none the less .. I'll take the pretty & smart over the emotional stability ..
For the long term, Intelligence and emotionally stable. I'm not going to approach someone I'm not attracted to but I've learned over time the person can grow on you. Looks can fade with age and kids but nothing can be more demoralizing and physically draining than a constantly depressed, insecure, angry/negative person.
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease. (Law 10)
something that struck me >"you can control is, how you deal with it." i needed that...im going through a HORRIBLE break up now and this is great advice..
I would choose INTELLIGENT and EMOTIONALLY STABLE. I like someone I can talk to on an adult level and has interesting conversation. Also a man who is emotionally stable meaning he is not all over the place (highs and lows), but is balanced and has his own mind and not just blow whatever way the wind happens to be blowing. I've been with someone that takes you on an emotional roller-coaster before and I don't like that...I like someone of sound mind and stable.
emotionally stable is my number one pick, it's crucuial. unemtionally stable people are those ones who you see on law and order, and ths investigates. "they aren't playing with a full deck of cards," and do crazy things like put a gps in your phone, or poison you so they can take care of you and then you fell like you nedd them, etc.
Love this. Well said and expressed so wonderfully. I agree with the same two options. My personal reality is that Emotional Stability doesn't exist as well. I like the fact that I am not numb to feelings or the ability to feel. To me, being emotional is one in a long list of great things that makes a woman A WOMAN. And like the lyrics in one of my favorite songs "Crazy" by Knarls Barkley..."I remember when I lost my mind and there was something so pleasant about that phase." #sadbuttrue and you're absolutely right about emotions being prohibited from stabilization because quite frankly I do not think they were meant to be.
Another great blog of substance Brook! Keep them coming.
As a person who has dated an man who was emotionally unstable and NEVER wants to do that again I would go for emotionally stable and intelligent. Like Kandia said above above dealing w/ someone's highs and lows or constantly trying to encourage someone is no fun at all. I am a thinker who loves learning so someone slow wouldn't work and looks eventually fade.
Hmm initially i would have said appearance and intelligence. But Beauty is subjective..As we all know, I could be good looking to one person and EXTREMELY hideous to another. So i will go with emotional stability, as well as intelligence.
Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain. Those things fade while intelligence remains.
-LOVE your blog btw!
Love this post! I would have also picked good looking and intelligent as my two.
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I have to go with intelligent and emotionally stable. I'm independent and I like people with their own sense of style, but it is just that PERSONAL. What a person looks like doesn't affect my well being as much as a person that has no equilibrium in the emotions department. I've been with people that were unable to deal with their emotions. Having emotions is natural, but when you hurt someone on purpose because you don't know how else to deal then you are not fit to be in a relationship with me. I'm a natural communicator so I have to have an intelligent person in my corner or there will be a disconnect and I won't be able to trust them.
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