Insider Trade Information.

I just wanted to touch on something, briefly, about women who are in the adult entertainment industry. Whether it be strip and/or porn, its an industry that introduces a lifestyle and enlightenment, along with the job.

I am going to go ahead and say something that may make some women who are not in this industry a little uncomfortable, but its just an idealistic that many of us women who ARE in the industry, share. The theory is, that most women in the adult entertainment industry understand men, and relationships often (not always) better than a women who is not in the industry. Not to say that we are more desirable, or better or to say these women who are not dancers or porn stars dont know how to treat their men or understand them, just saying that we are actually the ones who keep the train moving on most men's one track mind.

Ok, before some readers get pissy, let me further explain. As someone who works as a dancer in a strip club, I see men in their most rawest form. There is no woo-ing or empty compliments, fake gestures of interest. Just the uncensored man that most of you dont see, because it wants you to only see a gentlemen, manners and a good father figure. With that being said we are very much a witness to raw male animal attraction and behavior. Lets just say most of us are sitting court side, watching the games these men play, while they give us private commentary. We see men come in the club one week with his girl, the next week with his girlfriend #2. I'v also seen men with several different women at one time, come into the club, some kind of property share thing. (shrug). What is taboo for women outside of this industry, is normal not only for us women in it, but it is normal and often desired by then men who patronize it.

Because we bare witness to so much fuckery, without having to be directly involved. Its like getting a live tutorial of MEN ARE DOGS 101. We know what it is that men really want and what they will do to get it. Being in the adult entertainment industry has really just exposed the skeletal make up of a man. Horny, selfish, uncontrollable creatures. Females in this industry have been conditioned to be a man's best friend, minus the leash. No matter how in or out of l-ve they may be, when put in the right situation any man will respond to temptation. Doesnt matter.

Being a woman in this industry is like having the insider trade secrets for stocks. We know and see everything. Doesnt mean that it is ok, it just means that the natural trait of a woman being naive, is absolutely stripped. We know anything is possible, and that the chances of your man cheating is more likely than not. And while you may want to call that negative, we call it simply, candor. Trust me, we see the countless men react to things that has only broaden our understanding of why relationships do or do not work.

Its a given that women in strip and/or porn may be a little bit more free spirited and/or sexual than the next women, and since men are driven by sex, it only makes sense that the connection is effortless. A man will tell a stripper all his business because he does not feel the judgement from someone who is often judged themselves. So just imagine the stories we hear about, threesomes, and anal exploring, oh and everything his girlfriend and/or wife are not doing. Which clearly means, we will try and do the very opposite once we are in a relationship.

To know a man is to get inside his head, which means you have to get him to open up. No one wants to open up to someone who is judgemental, prude, and critical. ANY woman can understand a man and his dealings in relationships the way someone in our industry can, its just harder because seeing is believing. Before I was a dancer, I would have never believed what I have seen, through hear say. Its like seeing a unicorn. How the fuck do you tell your friend you crossed the street and saw a unicorn? You cant, you will sound crazy. Now would you believe I have seen the inside of man without an x-ray, in the middle of a club, with just the help of bausch & lomb? Didnt think you would.

Us ladies in the adult entertainment industry are not better than you, we are just unveiled, and just as raw. If you think about it, the hopes of romantic, monogamous and blissful relationships are at a minimum for us. Sure we know that there is a chance, but we know it comes at a cost. Whether that cost is your significant other having a secret affair, or lack of sex in the relationship, or some kind of a double life, we know the cost to worth ratio. The value you put on your man, better be worth the cost, from what I have personally seen, no "good" man, comes for free. Expect a loss. See? Only someone who has seen what I have seen would tell you something like that.