honesty breeds trust.
10.13.2009
does it ?
i heard this quote the other day. and immediately said, "SO TRUE!!" ..and then thought for a minute, and realized, its kinda not.
i can see women saying this quote more than men, because its usually us who are saying "its ok, you can tell me, just be honest with me"..which is what we do when probing a man about indiscretions, secrets and baby mommas.
and this is exactly why this quote is senseless.
example, a guy tells you "the truth is, i cheated on you 2 months ago.." now, what part of that breeds trust? if anything, it breaks it. not to say it can not be rebuilt, but sometimes being honest can shatter any hope of ever trusting again. and i am sure other times it can give people hope that the person is capable of being truthful, after moving forward.
i suppose the quote could go either way. im a realest, though. the glass still looks half empty, to me.
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Honesty breeds trust, but not for the present, but in the future. By that, I mean that of course the trust will be broken at the time that you are told that you were cheated on. But the next time somebody tells you 'Oh, I think you should know that your man is messing with so-and-so', you will say 'no because last time he messed with someone he told me.' This of course is assuming that he gets a second chance, which he mostly likely will because he was honest. It's all connected. Lastly, I loveeeeee your blog!
i will always choose the truth.
what happens after is just extra.
"i suppose the quote could go either way. im a realest, though. the glass still looks half empty, to me."
Yuuuuup, instead of looking half full!
But u're right...it could go either way, depending on the ppl w/i the relationship.
Good shit!!! :-)
I Myself Will Always Prefer A Man Telling Me The Truth...If I Don't Mind The Truth I Will Deal ...If Not I Will Move On. When A Man Tells U The Truth I Dunno To Me It Just Shows ( I May Be Wrong) That They Love You And Want To Be 100% With You Even If That Honesty Will Make Your Love Waiver.
I'm Going In On This Post Because The Other Day My B/f Just Started Telling Me Lil Tid bits Of What Went Down With Him And His Flirtacious Ways. Like We BOTH Let The Skeletons Out The Closet ( But Him More...Said He Wanted A Clean Slate). I Mean Him Telling Me Those Things Oddly Enough Made Me Love Him Even More Because He Had The Balls To Fess Up To Some Things. I Mean I Think It Depends On How Bad The Truth Is.....Because Some Truths Should Be Better Left Unsaid.
All I Know Is I'd Rather Cry From The Truth Than Smile From Someones Lies
depending on the situation tho' Brooky. honesty breeds trust in different situations, if you have a FRIEND who never lies to you about anything..who's 100% real about their shit, you'll probably go to them the most when you need an "honest opinion" as we say. but for boyfriends, and such, you might be right...that kind of honesty MAY bring on distrust. but then again if dude is constantly coming bak to you telling you he's cheating..he's not being honest--he's just disrespectful.
but such is life.
Honesty breeds better choices, and allows you to decide for yourself if you want to trust. If a man tells you about his indiscretions, you can trust that he's a dog. And you can forgive him knowing where you stand or walk away. Nothing wrong with being able to call a spade a spade.
Honesty might sometimes breed trust, but it can also breed heartache. Trust is such where when u do tell it, somewhere along the line ur treading on thin ice. Yes, truth can be that one thing that helps u get the weight off ur shoulders, but u just gotta deal with the consequences that comes ur way.
I completely see your point with that and I think you bring up a very honest and genuine perspective that you already know happens. You spoke pure truth because we, women, do say that to get the truth out but what happens when you are revealed the truth? We can all say that honesty is the best policy but how many marriages have ended when the man has admitted his unfaithfulness? he was HONEST and she still LEFT.
With that being said, I somewhat believe that if my man was to come to me and tell me had cheated, without me probing and all that, I would have more trust. It makes me think that he is TRULY sorry because I would not have found out unless he told me- "Dont tell me you're sorry when you're not, baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught" Miss Rihanna said it best. If i catch you and you tell me you are sorry I am less likely to believe you.
Being that I live in reality, until that day actually comes, I cannot say that I would be so full of trust JUST because he admitted it. Me, being my cynical self, feel that if he cheated and I stayed- he would do it again because if you give someone an inch, they will take the whole track.. so great post, very thought provoking
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