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Mashonda x Swizzy x Alicia PLEASE.
9.29.2009
i would like all of you to stop pretending that the l-vely miss alicia keys is not a home wrecker. (in my opinion, of course). it definitely takes more than "the other woman" to break up any relationship, BUT it is and always will be a heavy contributor to new and pre existing problems between a couples. we all kind of knew what was going on when mashonda was clearly still married to swizz beats and the whispers of alicia keys being the favorable mistress came along. i say favorable because obviously, her "piano/real hair/sultry voice/honorable career/humanitarian/who me? im so sweet, demeanor" has everyone fooled into this all being a misunderstanding or a "somebody must be lying" type of situation..instead of calling it what it is which is an extramarital affair. apparently, according to mashonda's tweets, its been going on for like 2 years..and now we are seeing all these candid shots of keys and swizzy, openly displaying their more than friends relationship.
so tell me this: when did this become ok? and why are people ignoring who the mistress is? be honest. if the other woman were, kim kardashian, or a amber rose type, the peanut gallery would be LIVID. i myself am a sucker for l-ve, but i couldnt imagine dating or having a serious/exclusive relationship with a man, if he was still married. especially if the marriage is public record, there was a newborn child (2 years ago) AND the wife had politely reached out to me and asked for me to fall back because they're STILL married. wow.
so, miss alicia keys, gets the double standard card of 2009 for having the most public marital affair with a well known celebrity producer, and nobody giving a fuck. oh, except for the wife. so while you guys are singing along to her new album, coming soon, about l-ve and relationships and rainbows and starry skies, remember, she was a contributor in taking that from someone. and im not taking blame away from swizz beats, because that isnt what this blog is about. this blog is about people turning a blind eye to an "image". clearly, alicia keys was not scandalous enough for anyone to hate, even though she is and has been dating a married man. maybe alicia should be asking where the divorce papers are..after 2 years? hmmm..
oh, and the other day miss keys had this to ask, via her twitter page:
@aliciakeys Having a heated debate n the studio. Question is...N love is it better to go 4 the choice that is "SMART" or the choice that has "SPARK"??
even though i do not agree with her, swizz and mashonda's relationship status, i will say this..i DO believe in l-ve, and i do believe that some sparks are a test..just a test. to see if you can still feel, to see if you can still get butterflies and goosebumps. sometimes a spark happens so that it can grab your attention. but those sparks can burn, and if your willing to withstand that sensation, as miss keys is doing, to live in that moment, then..play on playa. after all, where there is smoke..theres fire.
36 thought(s)..:
Ahhh, totally riding with you on this one Brooky! I must say, I did think you were gonna take a different stance on this... Alicia, to me, has reached her threshold of wackness.
~NV ;)
it's apparent he's not fully ready to leave home bc you would think after 2yrs he would get a divorce..people need to accept the fact that alicia is in the wrong and she's far from the perfect woman ppl make her out to be
i read that article and all i can say is that ppl need to keep ur shit under wraps. TRUE SWIZZ and MASHONDA were married and shit, but it do takes more to break up a marriage (trust me). lil birds come and go, some dont know when to quit. if that, end it. swizz was feeling ms. keys for awhile. plus ex-wifey just had a baby! WOW. and keys putting her lil l-ve shit on TWITTER, you dont think ppl know what ur talkin bout? Remember kids: Alicia Keys, Swizz Beatz and Mashonda grew up in the hood. You can't take the hood outta them.
I think that you have nothing but valid points here and think that its cool that although you have your own opinion about the topic you remained objective. I personally don't hate Alicia Keys, but I do feel that what she did is pretty fucked up. Unfortunately image is everything and A. Keys has a pretty pristine record to the public eye and this will be written off as a minor indiscretion and forgotten about. However, I don't that she is the SOLE reason for this marriage ending and I have to remind myself that there are two (or in this case 3) sides to every story. Its sad that Mashonda had to go through this especially at a time when she should have been celebrating the birth of her son with her husband.
i could not agree with you more brook!! there have been many-a-heated debates on twitter over the past several days, since mashonda's open letter to ms. keys surfaced. i must say, i have since found it increasingly hard to look at alicia keys in the same light as i did before. of course she is beautiful; of course she is talented; of course she has done her share of "good deeds"/charity work - but to carry on a relationship with a man who is still married, especially a "public figure" at that, is unacceptable. certainly if she was really feelin' swizzy, she could have gone home and wikipedia'ed his ass and seen that he was married, but no she chose to carry on. like you, i believe that the "image" of "alicia keys" is what has taken some of the "scandal" out of the story - as if because she is a "good girl", her "bad" behavior should be ignored or excused, but if a "bad girl" commits that same "bad" deed - there is sudden hell to pay. this is just another classic example of how the public is often fooled by celebrities "image" vs. their reality, but that is a whole other discussion. of course there are two sides to every story, but until swizz beatz or alicia keys addresses their side publicly (which i doubt will ever happen) we only have the "tea" from mashonda. another one bites the dust.
-maliyah.
Does the fact the mashonda is/has been reportedly holding up the divorce paper work that Swizz readily submitted play into this?
If so, it's like leaving a job but ya coworker or boss still calls you about work related business after you've taken a new job.They need to move on with matters. (With the exception on the parental duties they share)
well, i am far 2 experienced on this topic. yes, i have been the mistress and yes i contributed 2 a divorce on a marriage that was already broken. was/ or am i wrong? sure. but, i like u and so many others we are suckers for love. he never lied to me about being married. i chose 2 continue the relationship, but when i got smart, and remembered what it was like 2 be the "official" woman to a man and what it felt like when it happened to me, i left and when he came back he came back with the divorce. the pain is deep to lose someone 2 another but i definitely learned not to ask questions. it only leads to more pain and more questions that if you are honest w/ yourself, u do not want to know. do i wonder if he will do the same to me? sure. he is a man. i love alicia for her music and such, but her as a person i have no clue who she is. but if she is anything like me and many of the other "other" women, we fell in love with the right man at the wrong time. we are human and we do make mistakes that can affect ourselves and other people. in this case, other peoples families.
I know that's right! Just like when Angelina Jolie stole Jen's man and everyone was all 'oh they look so good together' i'm like 'wow am i missing something, didn't she just take Jen's man...'
Alicia knows she's wrong. There was no reason for that situation to happen the way it did.
that whole situation is a hot mess. but alicia and swizz deserve flak for how they handled their biz. i'm disappointed in both of them because that's not the way to go at all. like i've said before, i feel for the son the most in the scenario.
i definitely agree. yes she was a homewrecker. i dont care who you are but if you mess with a married man your wrong. period point blank.
now mashonda writing this letter via twitter.. hmmm. not so much. yes i understand shes hurt and frustrated but this should have been directed to "her husband" Thats where the blame begins. Im not with airing your dirty laundry out for the world to see.. that issue should have stayed behind closed doors. or hell she could of written a book. twitter is so impersonal.
so... Alicia Keys is a HOEmwrecker? *sigh* is there any hope for women?
I feel that the whole situation could have been handled better. Alicia has been portrayed as some sort of saint and no one has been getting on her. Instead people are just saying that Mashonda just needs to shut up and move on. In my opinion she hasn't said anything out of the way. This is all just a big mess and I'm sure all parties involved just want things to blow over.
Brava..I'm glad someone said it....people get mad when I called her a home wrecker.....she knew his wife and was aware he was still married......that's low down, no matter how you slice it....But see what a great image can do for you....I can stand strong, no matter how obvious the reality of it...
Niecey
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vincentlc
i agree with you Brook all the way!!! YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUTTA MY MOUTH !! AKEYS is a straight homewrecker!!finally someone agrees with me
Agreed. I don't really hear nobody going in on Alicia at all. Like 4real? Everybody just gon turn a blind eye?
Also, I feel Mashonda shouldn't have done that whole "open letter" shit. It's already messy enough and now you this letter flowing around the internet for people to ponder and commentate on...SMH
Well first and foremost...it is not up to us to judge anyone but ourselves. We've all and still to this day are committing sins probably on a daily basis. Let him without sin cast the first stone. “Looks around for someone to start throwing rocks”...NO ONE....No one is holier than thou. Our BIGGEST problem is that we tend to make other people’s problems our VERY OWN.
What A. Keys did (taking Swizzy from Mashonda) is nothing new in today’s society. This kind of thing happens on a daily basis. In no form or shape am I condoning what A. Keys did. But that doesn’t make her a BAD person. Clearly the choices she makes where her personal life is concerned is very far fetched from the decisions she makes regarding impacting someone’s life ((and that would be one reason she received a Humanitarian award). She still proves to be an awesome singer, a hell of an entertainer, etc.
Alicia joined Keep A Child Alive (KCA) in 2002, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing treatment to children and families with HIV/AIDS in Africa and the developing world. Alicia has since served as an ambassador of hope, traveling to Uganda, Kenya & South Africa and continuing to promote HIV/AIDS awareness and raise funds for the charity.
Some of us were once “the other woman” ((whether we would like to agree or not, the truth still remains just that)) But we move on, that’s life. It's nothing NEW where you see the wife/girlfriend calling the sidechick/jumpoff telling them to back off and like in many cases the sidechick/jumpoff (sees no evil, hears no evil) and continue to be that sidechick/jumpoff.
Alicia Keys, Mashonda and Swizzy are all human beings and should be treated accordingly. Now does A. Keys owe anyone an explanation? ABSOLUTELY NOT!... I am almost sure that things would’ve played out much differently had it been just a regular chick. People wouldn’t be so eager to turn their nose up at A. Keys.
Now I’m not saying I agree/disagree with you. (Brook) Your opinion is your very own, likewise everyone else’s.
No one knows what went on while Mashonda or Swizzy were married. The events that led up to Swizz being bold enough to seek another woman leaving his wife with their NEWBORN child. In today’s society, it’s NOTHING getting a man, the most challenging part is keeping him, and him remaining FAITHFUL during the course of that relationship is ALMOST INEVITABLE.
So now Mashonda is deemed as the woman scorned, the woman who still has HOPE that Swizzy may come to his senses and leave A. Keys, the woman who proves clearly...that she is having a very hard time letting go. Two years have gone by and the divorce is still NOT FINALIZED. Mind you that there are such things as amicable divorce, contested and uncontested. Still NO ONE knows what the hold up is.
In life, EVERYTHING happens for a REASON. Mashonda claims she’s now seeking spiritual guidance and that may be the BEST thing for her. From my understanding, Swizzy has proven to be a GREAT father but proves different when it came to being Mashonda’s husband. Who knows, somewhere down the line she may indeed find a much better man that Swizzy will ever be.
When it comes to who a person is screwing, people should definitely turn a blind eye to it because it’s nobody’s business. If we feel we need to focus on other people’s lives then it should be for the GOOD of society. ie, Charity, Stopping Violence, etc.
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I just feel like this all could have been handled behind closed doors between the three of them. Why does Mashonda keep bringing it up? She mentioned this almost two years ago. I don't condone anything that AK and Swizz Beats (bird nose) did, but the three of them should handle this in private and not on Twitter.
THIS IS IN RESPONSE TO THE MAJORITY OF THE PPL WHO COMMENTED ON THIS BLOG CALLING A. KEYS A HOMEWRECKER...AND WAS IN NO WHERE FORM OR SHAPE DIRECTED TO THE AUTHOR OF THIS BLOG, BROOK.
Well first and foremost...it is not up to us to judge anyone but ourselves. We've all and still to this day are committing sins probably on a daily basis. Let him without sin cast the first stone. “Looks around for someone to start throwing rocks”...NO ONE....No one is holier than thou. Our BIGGEST problem is that we tend to make other people’s problems our VERY OWN.
What A. Keys did (taking Swizzy from Mashonda) is nothing new in today’s society. This kind of thing happens on a daily basis. In no form or shape am I condoning what A. Keys did. But that doesn’t make her a BAD person. Clearly the choices she makes where her personal life is concerned is very far fetched from the decisions she makes regarding impacting someone’s life ((and that would be one reason she received a Humanitarian award). She still proves to be an awesome singer, a hell of an entertainer, etc.
Alicia joined Keep A Child Alive (KCA) in 2002, a non-profit organization dedicated to providing treatment to children and families with HIV/AIDS in Africa and the developing world. Alicia has since served as an ambassador of hope, traveling to Uganda, Kenya & South Africa and continuing to promote HIV/AIDS awareness and raise funds for the charity.
Some of us were once “the other woman” ((whether we would like to agree or not, the truth still remains just that)) But we move on, that’s life. It's nothing NEW where you see the wife/girlfriend calling the sidechick/jumpoff telling them to back off and like in many cases the sidechick/jumpoff (sees no evil, hears no evil) and continue to be that sidechick/jumpoff.
Alicia Keys, Mashonda and Swizzy are all human beings and should be treated accordingly. Now does A. Keys owe anyone an explanation? ABSOLUTELY NOT!... I am almost sure that things would’ve played out much differently had it been just a regular chick. People wouldn’t be so eager to turn their nose up at A. Keys.
Now I’m not saying I agree/disagree with you. (Brook) Your opinion is your very own, likewise everyone else’s.
No one knows what went on while Mashonda or Swizzy were married. The events that led up to Swizz being bold enough to seek another woman leaving his wife with their NEWBORN child. In today’s society, it’s NOTHING getting a man, the most challenging part is keeping him, and him remaining FAITHFUL during the course of that relationship is ALMOST INEVITABLE.
So now Mashonda is deemed as the woman scorned, the woman who still has HOPE that Swizzy may come to his senses and leave A. Keys, the woman who proves clearly...that she is having a very hard time letting go. Two years have gone by and the divorce is still NOT FINALIZED. Mind you that there are such things as amicable divorce, contested and uncontested. Still NO ONE knows what the hold up is.
In life, EVERYTHING happens for a REASON. Mashonda claims she’s now seeking spiritual guidance and that may be the BEST thing for her. From my understanding, Swizzy has proven to be a GREAT father but proves different when it came to being Mashonda’s husband. Who knows, somewhere down the line she may indeed find a much better man that Swizzy will ever be.
When it comes to who a person is screwing, people should definitely turn a blind eye to it because it’s nobody’s business. If we feel we need to focus on other people’s lives then it should be for the GOOD of society. ie, Charity, Stopping Violence, etc.
www.twitter.com/teikie
i totally agree wondefully put...
Ok this is my opinion. We dont know the entire story so who are we to judge. All we see is A. Keys dating a married man now lets crucify her. I dont agree. We don't know what led up to this. Swizz and Mashonda could have BEEN broken up. Marriage in 2009 in alot of relationships is just paperwork. That baby is 2 yrs old, which to me means that its quit possible him and Mashonda could be broken up for 2 whole years if not more. Mashonda is doing exactly what ANY woman being left by her husband would do. Playing the victim. "I'm trying to make my marriage work." Well honey, it takes 2 people to make a marriage work. If she's trying and Swizz is not i guess he should just stay single until she finally decides to sign the divorce papers? My bf's parents have been married for 25 years. The last 10 yrs they have been separated. Her mom has has been dating another guy for at least 7 of those years. I don't think she is wrong. They are no longer together. That could EASILY be the case with Swizz and Mashonda. I just feel like it's so easy to point fingers and judge from the outside looking in.
With all that being said, A. Keys could be a home wrecker and that speaks volumes about her character. But again i say WE DON'T KNOW THE WHOLE STORY. Therefor i will not judge. And neither should you.
This is so sadly TRUE.
Nobody says AK is BAD, but what she did is sure not RIGHT. Ppl got to admit it...
Nobody bats an eye because he upgraded. Mashonda is beautiful and talented woman but she's second to Alicia in status and success. Had it been the other way around, it would be a bigger shit storm. It would be spun like; Swizz left his new born son and rich, intelligent, beautiful, philanthropist, Grammy winning wife for a bitch singing with Cassidy and Fat Joe? He gave all that up for a Mashonda? Doesn't change the act but the players do change the perception like you were saying. No one is going to call them out either, unless you want to play with fire.
Saying all that, we don't know Swizz's side of the story. Same goes for A. Keys (what she did on Twitter was cold but I love it smh). Mashonda continuous playing up the other woman in order to sweeten her end of the deal is possible.
I'm 100% on Mashonda's side with this! When him and Alicia started the affair (while they were first denying it) Mashonda had JUST had their first child. She's a homewrecker, plain and simple.
i've always had a question mark when it came to "Ms A Keys"..and i agree whole heartly with what you are saying..people may give her lead-way idk y..she is not tht much important if u ask me..if they did what they did to ms lewinski..smh how awful
wait what!! I thought Swizz beats got divorced last year? I aint heard from Mashonda since.... that Cassidy single way back when. that doesnt make this situation right tho, but Keys is better lookin in my opinion. Swizz should end it with his wife its official with Keys
Everybody says don't judge- til its your man or someone's you know. I think MaShonda is taking it well. Whether we know the ins and outs of the situation or not, he was married and JUST had a baby. I seriously DOUBT they were already separated. If they JUST had a baby, they just did it not long ago...DUH. SO WHATEVER. I know all these AKeys fans want to see her in a certain light, shyt Im a fan too. But the fact of the matter is -Alicia is a HUMAN 1st. Don't put someone on a level above human behavior just because they have talent/famous.
I don't believe it is wrong if Swizz and Mo were no longer living together, but from what Mo says he was on tour with AKeys.
Here was an interview from MaShonda for all u non believers of the "we don't know what happened"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EyP6BHaA2QA
And some of the comments I see on here are just stupid- so, Swizz should leave his wife for AKeys JUST because she is more successful than MaShonda?! He is a success in himself 1st, not like he's out here hurtin. Also, HE CHOSE to marry her when she was less successful than she is now.
& who is to say Alicia will ALWAYS be as successful as she is today? We have seen celebs fall off into drugs etc. time and time again.
Im not the one for judgment either, I just feel people are turning the other cheek simply because Alicia is their fave singer or whatever. It is what it is. Wrong is wrong no matter who it is.
Brook- Im looking forward to the book! :)
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@Tawana...Who said he should leave his wife because she wasn't as successful as the other woman? If anything Alicia Keys' success has shielded from warranted criticism but no one is saying Swizz had to jump because Mashonda isn't a mega star. Brook's question was what's the deal with the double standard, the deal is if you have earned or inherited a certain status you can do anything you want in many eyes, it's not right but folks are hypnotized by money and fame even the rich and famous.
Letterman just admitted to sleeping with multiple woman on his staff and what did he get, a room full of laughs. Lets see PS 34's Principal admit to fucking the 6th grade Math teacher and the lunch lady and lets how many blow it off with a laugh.
you can't steal a man that doesn't want to be stolen. i dont blame alicia keys or anybody else who messes with somebody in a relationship. if he wasn't reciprocating, she would leave it alone. obviously, he is. if mashonda doesnt like that, she should leave. if she really cared about him, she would want him to be happy, even if that means with somebody else. she shouldn't deny him his happiness, she can only ensure her own, and if the situation she is in isnt making her happy, she should leave.swizz beatz is the one that got married, not alicia. she has no obligation to anybody but herself. when 2 ppl get married, they are making a committment to EACH OTHER... the rest of the world is not obligated to oblige this committment. if they were, they'd have to sign those papers too. life is too short to worry about foregoing your happiness because some other woman to whom you have absolutely no obligation is unhappy about it.
ppl are always quick to say "if it was your man, it would be different" no, not at all. i have been cheated on and i dont feel it was the other girls fault at all. again, she made no committment to me. i think its weak for mashonda or anybody else in this situation to blame the other woman. ppl need to stop being so insecure and take care of theirs and stop expecting other ppl to help them do so.
seems like everyone forgot that in addition to the newborn baby with Mashonda Swizz ALSO had a baby with another woman in the MIDDLE of his marriage. Sorry Mashonda..but a baby!! is a sign that your husband is INCREDIBLY sloppy! After a baby I'd have a hard time thinking that my hubby will do right by me in the end.....but that's just me *shrugs*
@Omar My comment was not directed at you. So, its funny that u think it was. Hmmmm.
What I said was agreeing with Brook if you'd of read more than what u THOUGHT was directed at you- you would see that. I can agree to disagree tho. I wish I cared more,but I couldn't care less.
People can take my COMMENT how they want....it's just a comment O_o
I agree B! Love her music & all that but she dead wrong, point blank PERIOD.
Swizz too of course & I feel Mashonda for taking a stand on this shit. She proclaimed vows w/this man....not everyone is looking for a come up when they get married. She seems like she REALLY love him.
To all those sayn: "Let he who's w/o sin cast the 1st stone" & al dat mess....BOO BYE!!! If that was YOU in Mashonda's position u'd be LIVID too....belee dat!!!
Yes this type of thing happens all the time but bcuz that's true doesn't mean it's right! I'm all for love & sparks & all dat good shit but right is right & wrong is wrong.
IF they were just dating for a long time & had a child it wouldn't be such a big deal 2 me bcuz he'd be fair game but marriage is sumthn i take seriously so I feel Mashonda. But if A. Keys is REALLY in love w/ Swizz i can feel that too BUT she needs 2 face reality & fess up 2 her wrong doing!
THEE END! lol (Might have some typos..oh well)
Not going to read the comments just want to say that I love how you are so eloquent in writing your take on situations. I didn't give the Mashonda-Swizz-A.Keys any real thought but you are 100% correct with the Kim K/Amber Rose vs A. Keys theory. The blogs and media would've villafied one of them. She would've been this year's 'Tameka Foster' as far as how much people would plain out hate her. Kudos Brook! <3 your mind!!
I totally agree with you. People have lost their minds. No one values anything. I know we're use to being politically correct, but let's keep it real. You're an an adulterer if you have relations w/a married man, or woman. We like to be nice about it and call me the "mistress." Yea, ok. A permissive society cannot be successful, and we're bearing the fruit of our craziness. BTW, cool blog.
IMHO, it doesn't matter how many wonderful, generous, philanthropic things she does all over the globe, AK is as wrong as two left shoes in a box to be sold for f'ing around with a married man, in love or not. *SMH*
And to be fair and pass around my disdain equally, Swizzy sucks!! Divorce your damn wife before you take on some more baggage... it's been two years now. WTF?!
I hope that AK clearly understands that her man is a f'ing CHEATER... and a man that will cheat WITH YOU will also cheat ON YOU!
Nuff said...
I was updating myself on ur blog and i read ur take on this situation because me and my friend was just talking about this after her AMA performance because i didnt really understand what she did and my friend said `i cant listen to her music anymore` which makes a lot of sense.
Everyone on ur comments is saying you cant judge anyone only God can, which is true but he also says for us to judge not the sinner but the sin, to question certain things. I cant listen to her music because she would be looked at as a hypocrite because you are screaming women empowerment but ur limiting youself to be a side bitch?? I dont get it and for that it makes me question Alicia's integrity, you cant tell me ur a Superwoman sleeping with married men. So i just hope she gets into her senses of knowing whatever a man does to someone else to get to u he is capable of doing the same thing to u to get to someone else.
People forget how important marriage is and thats what kills me ur not supposed to divorce ur spouse thats the reason u made that strong commitment people get married outta context these days and which results into things like this. My prayers out to all of them and ur blog is great i love how u bring light to things people are scared to discuss thats why u have so many Annonymous readers w/ opinions [which is weird to me, u cant have a voice w/ no face] but much love!
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