death to snoopy.

i have to say, i might be the QUEEN of "20 questions". whom ever im seeing/dating/sleeping with..i definitely hit them with questions, not only get to know them, but of course to be nosey!!

"do you have..."

• baby momma?


• girlfriend?


• diseases?

-giggles- yea i know, i know, but id rather be nosey then a SNOOP. its really not cool to go through peoples things, including, but not limited to, cell phones, handbags, luggage, private letters/mail, phone books..anything that you should be asking permission to see. you cant go looking for dirt and get mad when you find some.

i know there is a LOT of temptation to go through a guy/girl(s) things when they arent looking, thinking that you will find something that will maybe validate your beliefs about something, 9 times out of 10, we have made up. and why the hell are we looking for a confirmation of DIRT?? its like the wacky people that go on maury povich for lie detector tests and cheaters for surveillance, and then STILL end up staying with their significant other, even after digging for the "truth". whats the point of driving yourself crazy, if you have that much doubt..you probably shouldn't be with that person. true story. speaking of cheaters, they never air any of the cases where they found NOTHING, i wonder what that archive looks like!

iv never been the "snooping" type, because i myself, value my own privacy, and i would hate to deny someone else that same right, its almost criminal. double standards = not cool (if you can help it!). besides, could you imagine searching for the worst and finding NOTHING-and then getting caught! can you really come back from that? lets just be honest, finding someone your in a relationship with going through your things just to find some proof of their own beliefs, can show lack of trust, obviously, and lack of character. and can you still be with them? finding out that your mate suffers from paranoia? because if your searching for something to validate your accusations, that means you have NO proof, maybe just innuendo, gossip, or bad nerves. again, paranoia.

im definitely not saying that every situation you dig for dirt you will come up empty handed, but in most cases, we give SECOND, or third chances anyway, just so they can do whatever you caught them doing, AGAIN, only better and more privately. so why trouble yourself with doubt and curiosity, it killed the cat anyway.

my opinion, SNOOPING IS LAME. keep looking for something to fuss over, and trust me, you will find it. and if you do not find it, im sure yall will fuss over you looking for it. LACK of trust is that one thing that will break the back of any relationship-i dont care who you are. i refuse to go thru another man's phone or computer, laptop, etc. as a matter of fact, im not even interested. im more interested in building a bond through trust, and if he is doing something shady on the side, let the guilt eat him, if that doesnt work, then believe in the saying so many of you preach "the truth always comes to light".

bottom line-if the person your with has something tucked away in secrecy, it doesnt mean that its necessarily bad or that its infidelity, it could be something that has nothing to do with you whatsoever. for you to discover that on your own, is kinda fucked up. ask questions, without defensive reactions, show your trustworthy, and im sure they will come to you when ready. dont make them have to take your skepticism in the ass. there's an obviously reason why you have been cut out of that persons privacy - and you've proved HIS suspicions by going through it.