How to tell if..
4.06.2012
..a man is an ASS HOLE!
· There is a disconnect between what he says he is going to do, and what he actually does.
· Tells you to not talk to your friends and fam about you two’s “situation.” For fear they may actually tell you...he is an ass hole.
· His conversations with you usually only exist right before or right after sex.
· He talks to you like you have a tail. :[
Even though these are very obvious signs of a jerk, we still seem to express some kind of questionable interests in these type of men. We think we can change, them and we can’t. Ass hole-ish behavior is contagious. Get out while you can.
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Speaking from experience..
It’s really not cool to go through people’s things, including, but not limited to, cell phones, handbags, luggage, private letters/mail, phone books. Really anything that you should be asking permission to see. You can’t go looking for dirt and get mad when you find it. If the person you’re with has something tucked away in secrecy, it doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily bad or that it’s infidelity, it could be something that has nothing to do with you whatsoever and is private to that person. For you to discover that on your own, is kind of un-cool. Ask questions, without defensive reactions, show your trustworthy, and I’m sure they will open up to you about private things, in due time. Don’t make them have to take your skepticism in the ass.
Read more...15 things you DON'T know about Jay-Z!
Of course..I knew all this already, but yea. :) Check out the article from Complex magazine HERE.
Read more...Clarity: Talking Behind Ones Back
Note: If you OPENLY dislike someone, and say something rude about them, that does NOT constitute as "talking behind someone's back". Personally, I'll pass on calling every bum I dislike, just to tell them they're a bum. Especially if they know I don't like them in the first place.
Now if you're talking shit about someone who you're "cool" with or friends with, then yes, that is indeed bad behavior, and not very nice.
Another Double Standard.
10.05.2011
Short and sweet..
I always see these guys on my Timeline via Twitter, talking about gold diggers and women only being interested in them for their money, or so called "social status".
Mind you, these are the same gentlemen that will have every piece of jewelry that they own on in their profile picture. Or, they're constantly twit pic-ing whatever car they're leasing this quarter, club pics of them spilling Moet Rose, and the reaaaally popular picture of them standing with or around celebrities. So, I ask, what and who are you trying to attract if you're only selling the materialistic side of your social existence? Rhetorical. You're not writing poetry, saving animals from oil spills or recycling all your empty Moet bottles, YOU ARE SHOWING OFF in an attempt to get ATTENTION. You successfully get attention from women, and say.."All you bitches want is my money" ..WELP, stop broadcasting what you do not want to be used for. It's kind of like "Million Dollar Matchmaker". Seriously. They want to tell these women "No sex until monogamy"..and "No gold digging" but yet, the very allure of your service is in the first two words of your business name .."Million Dollar". Then the men have the audacity to feel a "way" that women only want them for their money, so they sign up for a dating service that describes their current tax bracket, and what? You expect to attract who? Knock it off.
My point is this: Men, don't be mad when a woman desires or would like to date a partner who is financially stable and/or wants to be taken care of. ESPECIALLY if you're very forthright with your financial social status. After all, men clearly are permitted to date women based on their physical attributes, and that seems to be ok. But the moment a woman would like to date a man on his financial attributes, she is a gold digger. Aren't both equally superficial, yet one more chastised than the other?
Why do we have a problem with women who are attracted to men with money, but do not have a problem with men who draw class distinctions with women based on their beauty, or lack there of..?
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Fucka Meddler.
9.15.2011
med·dle
[med-l]
Show IPAto involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation; interfereofficiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in my personal life!
What to do when you encounter the ever so present friend of a friend, or friend of a l-ver, or even a friend of your own who is constantly causing static in your relationship, WITH intent ?
This question is rhetorical.
Most meddlers I know of hide their intent with the excuse that they are merely just trying to help, inform, or advise. But at what point do these "friends" cross the very fine line of help when they decide to impose their opinions on someone else's relationship in a harmful way?
Third party perspective is the equivalent of trying to describe the details of someone else's face, 20 feet away, under water. You can see them, and make out the obvious, but you can't clearly make out all the components.
Meddlers are usually 3rd, 4th and 5th party perspective, forming opinions and advice from regurgitated information, that is usually one sided and exaggerated.
Sure, sometimes we unintentionally invite them in our relationships when we vent about our significant other, or seek some type of accomplice when making a relationship decisions. But where are the boundaries when you have been given the privilege of being asked for advice?
The worst kind of meddler is the one who does not like their friend's girl/boyfriend, l-ver, partner or whatever. It causes a motive. Clearly, if you do nott like who your friend is involved with, whenever they have a problem in their relationship, you are usually the first person to meddle.
I find it tricky to deal with these meddlers because seriously, their biased advice almost NEVER falls on deaf ears. And even if your relationship survives whatever shake ups, meddlers never really go away unless they're addressed and extinguished. What makes it tricky is if the meddler is not YOUR friend, but who you're involved with friend.
Be careful when addressing a problem with one of your l-ver's friends who you've deemed a meddler, because 9 times out of 10, they will defend them because they know they're responsible for venting your not so hot qualities whenever they needed a friend. But usually that friend doesn't know the polite way to give objective advice. Instead, they let their personal opinions become involved in their advice, and even after that moment of being asked for advice, they still persist to force their opinion throughout the term of your relationship. Like, ew, don't you have something else to do?
Some people have to talk things out to process it. Be careful who you talk to about your relationships. You may be inviting some miserable troll into your problems, and their goal is to make everyone else as lonely and unhappy as they are. As if your relationship problems aren't bad enough, you have an insistent meddling gossiper sucking the life out of your relationship and then passing it along to all of their friends as a part of their gossiping duties.
I despise meddling and meddlers. And when I, myself am asked to give advice to a friend about their relationship, I try to give the most detached, and impersonal advice I can give. Because I won't be the one who has to directly deal with the outcome of their decisions. I refuse to be a part of their problems.
Note to Meddlers: The more you meddle in someone else's intimate involvement with another person, the less you have going on in your own life. Which is never a good thing. Your opinion isn't the opinion that matters the most, the two people who involved are really the only ones that matter. You should never know more about the two people you're meddling with, than the two people involved. In that case, you're an overachiever in imposing on privacy, and should be further revoked of all conversations about other people's business. Learn to interpret information appropriately, and not selfishly. By the way, if a relationship survives you, that makes you a failure. :(
With that being said..one last thing to those who enable meddlers, by continuing to supply them with input..
*The information from you, is valuable, and private. It involves the person you're with. Consider them in all things relayed.
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