Insider Trade Information.

I just wanted to touch on something, briefly, about women who are in the adult entertainment industry. Whether it be strip and/or porn, its an industry that introduces a lifestyle and enlightenment, along with the job.

I am going to go ahead and say something that may make some women who are not in this industry a little uncomfortable, but its just an idealistic that many of us women who ARE in the industry, share. The theory is, that most women in the adult entertainment industry understand men, and relationships often (not always) better than a women who is not in the industry. Not to say that we are more desirable, or better or to say these women who are not dancers or porn stars dont know how to treat their men or understand them, just saying that we are actually the ones who keep the train moving on most men's one track mind.

Ok, before some readers get pissy, let me further explain. As someone who works as a dancer in a strip club, I see men in their most rawest form. There is no woo-ing or empty compliments, fake gestures of interest. Just the uncensored man that most of you dont see, because it wants you to only see a gentlemen, manners and a good father figure. With that being said we are very much a witness to raw male animal attraction and behavior. Lets just say most of us are sitting court side, watching the games these men play, while they give us private commentary. We see men come in the club one week with his girl, the next week with his girlfriend #2. I'v also seen men with several different women at one time, come into the club, some kind of property share thing. (shrug). What is taboo for women outside of this industry, is normal not only for us women in it, but it is normal and often desired by then men who patronize it.

Because we bare witness to so much fuckery, without having to be directly involved. Its like getting a live tutorial of MEN ARE DOGS 101. We know what it is that men really want and what they will do to get it. Being in the adult entertainment industry has really just exposed the skeletal make up of a man. Horny, selfish, uncontrollable creatures. Females in this industry have been conditioned to be a man's best friend, minus the leash. No matter how in or out of l-ve they may be, when put in the right situation any man will respond to temptation. Doesnt matter.

Being a woman in this industry is like having the insider trade secrets for stocks. We know and see everything. Doesnt mean that it is ok, it just means that the natural trait of a woman being naive, is absolutely stripped. We know anything is possible, and that the chances of your man cheating is more likely than not. And while you may want to call that negative, we call it simply, candor. Trust me, we see the countless men react to things that has only broaden our understanding of why relationships do or do not work.

Its a given that women in strip and/or porn may be a little bit more free spirited and/or sexual than the next women, and since men are driven by sex, it only makes sense that the connection is effortless. A man will tell a stripper all his business because he does not feel the judgement from someone who is often judged themselves. So just imagine the stories we hear about, threesomes, and anal exploring, oh and everything his girlfriend and/or wife are not doing. Which clearly means, we will try and do the very opposite once we are in a relationship.

To know a man is to get inside his head, which means you have to get him to open up. No one wants to open up to someone who is judgemental, prude, and critical. ANY woman can understand a man and his dealings in relationships the way someone in our industry can, its just harder because seeing is believing. Before I was a dancer, I would have never believed what I have seen, through hear say. Its like seeing a unicorn. How the fuck do you tell your friend you crossed the street and saw a unicorn? You cant, you will sound crazy. Now would you believe I have seen the inside of man without an x-ray, in the middle of a club, with just the help of bausch & lomb? Didnt think you would.

Us ladies in the adult entertainment industry are not better than you, we are just unveiled, and just as raw. If you think about it, the hopes of romantic, monogamous and blissful relationships are at a minimum for us. Sure we know that there is a chance, but we know it comes at a cost. Whether that cost is your significant other having a secret affair, or lack of sex in the relationship, or some kind of a double life, we know the cost to worth ratio. The value you put on your man, better be worth the cost, from what I have personally seen, no "good" man, comes for free. Expect a loss. See? Only someone who has seen what I have seen would tell you something like that.

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Q + A about T + A

Working for a strip club, I often get 20 questions a day about anything and everything, from bikini lines, to money. Even though it can be exasperating, I try to give every question a fair answer because that person usually doesnt know that 20 other people already asked me that this week!

So I decided to flip the tables and give people a chance to ask a Manager at the club I work at, Magic City, any question they wanted.

The manager I asked is Mikey, aka Mike Jr, aka Lil Magic. He is the son of "Big Magic", the founder of Magic City, and has been, who I consider to be, a good friend of mine since I started about 3 years ago. To me, he is like my long lost step brother. We fuss, we challenge each other, and argue his insane fascination with GOOGLE all the time. He is one of those "tough l-ve" kind of guys, and has managed to be friends and still stay professional when making decisions that would still piss me the fuck off. I dont agree with MOST of the decisions, rules, memos, and other blah blah blah that he puts out. But when studying peoples actions, we should pay closer attention to their intentions. And as much as some of us girls would like to jump him in a dark alley sometimes, he, in my opinion, has the best intentions of anyone in management at Magic City. Though he is human, he makes a lot of decisions without malice, which I can not say for everyone. It is extremely hard for some people to penalize someone(s) that you consider a friend. But trust me, Mikey has no problem suspending you and then taking everyone out for drinks the next day. He has almost mastered the fine line, and just because I am doing this blog, promoting him, myself and Magic City does NOT mean I wont be fired next week, lol. Even as a friend, I still get the same treatment as that girl over there. Side note, he was also the manager that gave me a second chance when FIRED for my weight.

Here are your questions, here are his answers:

Do you pick the money up off the floor sometimes?

No, but I do clean it off the ceiling.

You get to see the dancers constantly nude, is this considered a perk of the job?

Yes. Perk, maybe. I don’t enjoy seeing every girl naked. So there’s a give and take there.

Do you drink on the job?

No!

Do you or have you dated any of the dancers while working for Magic City ?

Yes I have. I enjoy dancers company and separate business from pleasure very well.

Are you following your dreams, as a manager at Magic City?

I’m an entrepreneur, so yes. This not my only gig either. I have my own entertainment consulting company, and I do marketing, sales, and management for other family owned businesses.

Do you ever stop caring that there are a bunch of nude women around you ?

Definitely, it’s overrated. Most women look better with their clothes on.

When you're hiring the dancers, why do you hire some women who are less than "stellar"?

Sure, the world is limited on HOT chicks that want to dance for a living. So we have to make due sometimes and depend on our ability to upgrade a girl.

Why not build a fitness center in the club, to motivate your dancers?

In the club? Lqi, our facility is not large enough. (LQI means, laughing quietly on the inside)

Who was the first OG stripper? ..And what makes a stripper an OG?

I would have to ask my father that one. What makes a stripper an “OG”? It starts off of course with time on the job. But not only that, usually an “OG” has been considered a top dancer wherever she goes, and has her act together. Can’t be an “OG” and don’t know how to act or pay bills on time.

Do you secretly want to be on the stage?

Tried me..

Outside of the club, when with a woman intimately, are you no longer wowed by the female nude anatomy?

No, I’m a man, so nude females that I’m attracted to still wow me like any other male.

What do dancers usually do after they leave this industry? Do they often come back?

Not so well. If they haven’t prepared and planned correctly then they’re usually back within a year or so. Same reason they became a dancer in the first place is usually what brings them back.

How do you evaluate a woman upon hiring them to be a dancer? How do you know you can trust them, and what are the requirements to be a Magic City dancer?

I look for basic cute, and then I look for problems. If the dancer doesn’t have any obvious problems that would go against what we’re looking for then they’re generally hired. Requirements? Females that are customer oriented, friendly, presentable and eager to work.

Would you allow your daughter to strip?

Don’t plan on having any girls but, I guess it depends on the circumstances. If I were able to support my daughter financially, then no. I couldn’t then, maybe.

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Law 44

From the 48 Laws of Power.

Law 44

Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect

The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.

mirror mirror on the wall..

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Loyalty is Vintage.

Loyalty is vintage because it is dated, and it is only in style for people who truly appreciate its ethic.

The industry I work in, there is no such of a thing. Oh, wait. There is a supreme and deniable loyalty to MONEY (for some). Which just brings more life to “the L-VE of money is the root of all evil”. Friendships have turned casual and lifeless now, whether its in the streets or my job place. To call someone you friend is as impulsive as buying a pack of gum at the check out line. I mean, we all say how big a deal the word friendship is, but friendship and loyalty go hand and hand and is a game of more show, than tell. Sometimes, loyalty requires you either to stand up for something or someone by verbally defending them, or sometimes loyalty requires you to just shut the fuck up about things that are sacred and binding. Even in a fallout between two or many, if there was ever any TRUE devotion involved, your heart will not let your mind spoil that faithfulness.


My loyalty has been questioned with where I work because I promote myself more than I do my place of business. Because I would like to move on progressively from strip, I keep one foot out the door, to keep me grounded and aware of my goals. Even though I am not against the club, its said that I am not AS loyal as other ladies working for the club, because my heart does not bleeeeed strip. So does this mean that I am not loyal? Can your character still harbor loyalty if its not unconditional? I think that in this particular example with the club, I show my loyalty by not defaming there name or secretly working for other establishments (since we are not allowed to), things I cant TELL them about, I can only demonstrate. I hope they’re looking.
But the actual definition of loyalty is lost in translation amongst business, friends, relationships, etc. The act of being loyal is determined differently with every person and/or object you decide to devote yourself to. Fist example was (above), where I work, second example, my circle of friends. When you choose to let someone into a part of your heart that generates some kind of emotion, even if its just mild emotion, you should expect to show them some kind of moral conduct out of respect. If you cant be devoted to someone you are calling your friend, then you need to call them something else. Perhaps, a pal, an associate, and acquaintance, anything but a friend. Don’t muddy the true significance of a friend with people whom you have no plans on fighting for (figuratively speaking), defending, and standing up for, even in times you would rather be somewhere else. I mean, that’s what friends do. Real friends are selfless, and committed.


Third example, relationships. In a relationship you need to be loyal to yourself first. If you’re not the chief defender of you heart, who will be? Women always have this bitter sweet habit of defending and/or standing by her man, no matter what. Meanwhile leaving any kind of self-l-ve in the dust. As if a man can replace any kind of self worth. Be true to yourself, and then you can give that devotion to another.


Loyalty is Chanel No5, its couture, it’s a classic patent leather pump, it’s red lipstick, it’s a string of pearls. Loyalty is the timeless piece no REAL relationship can do without. But its also so vintage and classic that this new generation fails at making it trendy. Now, you can buy friends, spouses and yes-men, and in the same day, lose them to the highest bidder. Sure, loyalty will cost you more, because it requires you to make decisions that will challenge other people when defending someone close to you even when they are wrong. It will cost you plenty of snakes in the grass and phantom faux friends who are cheap plastic earrings, very disposable and will never officially be in style. If you have to drop your circle down to even just three people, its worth it, just to know that your loyalty is 100/100 and not 50/50 is enough to make the cost of vintage couture loyalty WORTH it. There is a reason Vintage never goes away, it works, it fits, its holds no expiration date and is made for anyone that has showmanship, and when all else fails, (skinny jeans, colorful sneakers and ray bans), loyalty is still standing.

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Sex with your Ex? Nope.

Having sexual relations with someone who you are no longer with, usually sounds like it is not such a good idea. Since that person is indeed in the past, it kind of gives you the sense that you are moving backwards, even if it is just for intercourse. Anyone you have had some kind of history with, complicated or not, will make it almost impossible to not re hatch these feelings during some late night rendezvous. I know I may get a backlash for this, but women, we know that along with sex there are times we also develop an attachment and/or emotion with that person we have chose to bring back in our bedroom. Now add an EX into the equation, and it further complicates things. Which is ironic, because “X” in mathematical terms, means nothing, so when it comes to sex, why does the X mean so much?

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Law 46.

From the 48 Laws of Power.

Law 46.

Never appear too Perfect

Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

we will all laugh at gilded butterflies. word to miss megan fox.

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the NOT so indecent proposal.

What's the big deal with prostitution?


I only ask because I don't know why I would ever concern myself with what one does with her body, or his money, or vice versa. But the age old double standard is: judge the prostitute, and not the customer. People either dislike prostitution because its one, illegal or two, socially frowned on. Whether you find them on a corner, a strip club or posing as a "real estate agent", there is a sexual double standard for promiscuous women. See, a woman being what the collective call a WHORE, is really only criminal when she charges for it. Otherwise, the peanut gallery doesn't seem to bother with the occasional slut who sleeps around. But if she decides to profit off her escapades, then all of sudden its offensive. There is just something about putting a hefty price on your head for something that otherwise you would already be doing for free, that seems to rub prudes the absolute wrong way...

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