Just say NO to Glitter. Even if it doesn't listen.

It is my opinion that glitter should only be sold to minors, or people with children. It belongs on construction paper, children's birthday cards, and some select nail polishes. Oh, it is also acceptable for fun events like, Halloween or Mardi Gras. If you just have to sparkle..try body shimmer. (Which I kinda don't like either, but it's a healthy alternative). And really, if you are over the age of 25, glitter shouldn't even be in your make up bag.

I was told that fashion is an OPINION not a rule. Welp, this is just my opinion. Not to be confused with fact. You like glitter? No judgment. Just please don't touch me. That shit will take weeks to wash off.

That's all I have for now.

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Thoughts for the day..

In case you don't follow me on Twitter and/or aren't a part of the never ending rumor mill..I was fired from Magic City a couple weeks ago. Just wanted to officially blast it, since people are still going there to see me, or assuming I am still part of the Magic City dysfunctional family (which I am not). The reason for me getting fired was..well..there was no reason. LOL. I was called by a manager a couple hours before I usually go to work and was told that "It wasn't going to work out, anymore" and when I asked the reason, they said "There isn't one, which is bullshit." This last year for me has been like one long ass emotional break up with this club. In this situation..the club would be the emotional bitch. And we broke up last February of '09. Every since then, she has been antagonizing me, talking shit about me, having an attitude and throwing bitch fits, not allowing us to be "just friends". Why the fuck we can't have are differences and co-exist? lol. Imagine living with an ex girlfriend, just because you're trying to ride out the lease, until you can leave. Welp, that is pretty much what it was. I couldn't stand the bitch, and she couldn't stand me. Even though I technically did nothing wrong, my apathetic attitude towards micro management, namely Loma, rubbed 'em the wrong way. Yep, I said it. In a published post, no less.

-shrugs-

I know how men feel when they want to be "just friends", and the emotional bitch won't take the break up in stride. I would equate my break up to coming home to all my shit being on the street, and locks changed with no explanation. It was fucked up, and vengeful. But the club (specifically the person behind me getting fired), is going to have a very long year. I plan on telling anyone worth listening what happened. Oh, and rumor has it that I asked for my job back? Which couldn't be possible, since I have only spoken to the manager that called to relay the message of termination (notice I said RELAY). I have not spoken to any other manager about me being fired, or me coming back, so that kills that bogus theory. People will lie about anything that will make them feel as if they have worth. Its a strip club, not an institution, cut it out. Shout out to Mikey, for holding me down, as long as he could. End quote.

Moving along..More thoughts..

I'm pretty sure I have stopped dancing..at least I HOPE so. Keep me motivated, guys.

The book "With Brook Lynne In Mind" is still a project in the making. Thanks for all the pre orders! I appreciate the support. But I am taking my time with this one, I want it to be a good book. I will keep everyone posted as I finish it up!

Thoughts..thoughts..thoughts..

I plan to continue with change. Also, I don't think popularity can be classified as a good or bad thing, it just is what it is. And with this gained popularity, I want to get a little less accessible, only because I get overwhelmed with so many emails and tweets, and I can't touch every single person, as I'd like too. So..miss me with the "she Hollywood" or "she has changed" because you're preaching to the choir. I'm not working my butt off to stay the same, I want to progress. Until then I'm going to try and email everyone back and help everyone as much as possible! The support is amazing. Just understand, I may miss a few people, unfortunately. My apologies.

what else..

I keep having to ask myself daily, is there a vitamin for patience?

OH! T-shirts coming soon..got some "Pretty Bitches Do Pretty Things" coming out, and also trying to get some "Girl, WHAT?!" shirts out there too! For those of ya'll unfamiliar with the #girlwhat movement, let me give you a brief synopsis! Basically, "Girl, WHAT?!" is the official response we give to ridiculous ass gossip, ridiculous ass people, ridiculous ass ANYTHING. Don't wait for ANYONE to finish their sentence, especially if they are talking some bullshit bologna to you. Just slam your hand on any reachable hard surface, and holler "GIRL, WHAT!!?" and walk it off. Arguments and stupid idiot banter is so last year! Word to Rochelle Gotti!

Alrighty, that's it for now. Thoughts?

P.S. The Blueprint III concert, amazing! Thanks, Erica!

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Loyalty VS Faithful

This is the question I asked everyone, weeks ago, on my blog. The results are above. And I have to say I do agree with the majority.

Even though the words "faithful" and "loyal" are used in both of the definitions for the two, I think that there may be a difference when demonstrating them in a "romantic" relationship. I will go as far as to say that the two are synonyms. Similar, and nearly the same. But in my opinion, its how the words are demonstrated through actions that truly define their separation.

In a monogamous relationship we desire the faithful. A man who is faithful will see you and only you. If he is faithful, he will not have a girlfriend #2, which has become our new normality, present day. A faithful man won't stray, won't leave, won't fall to temptation, he is a one woman man. This, to me, is what I would define as faithful.

Now, I'm going to define what so many current day relationships have become. A man who has secret relationships, who is always checking out the other woman, or checking for the other woman, sleeping with other women, flirting with another woman or even developing extramarital affairs with other women, BUT, always comes back to their girlfriend number one, or their wife. They can and will cheat, lie, and have their secrets, but will continue to come home to that one woman, no matter what.

As much as we don't want to call this loyal, this may be a small version of it. Loyalty is usually understood, once it is tested. It usually takes someone being tempted to know if they're even devoted. But some actually believe that even if they fall to temptation, as long as they come back, they're demonstration some kind of bond, when someone who is faithful, would have never left in the first place.

This would include such guys as Reggie Bush, Josh Duhamel, P-Diddy, Kobe Bryant, as being loyal. These are all men who have relationships with a said "girlfriend", but who have also had promiscuous ways, and seem to always find their way back home. Which I guess could be debatable, since our sources are celeb blogs. Either way, they're loyal to who they come home to. But, not at all faithful. Is it making sense yet?

This is just a theory of mine. Not at all factual..but I think it explains a lot of relationships that are open without the other person in the relationship even knowing. Womp.

Loyalty versus being Faithful, thoughts?

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Lets take a power trip..

"The abuse of power that seems to create the most unhappiness is when a person uses personal power to get ahead without regards to the welfare of others..."

I'm kind of curious about the kind of person who is granted power, just to abuse it? Usually, someone who has worked their way up the ranks of labor, and earned their position of power by achievement, tend to be humbled and proud to get to a top ranking position. The opposite of that would may be a dictator with pride taking advantage of the role. This is most of the time, but not always. The people with power that abuse it, tend to be the ones who didn't earn anything, they were just given too much of it. Examples of this may be, nepotism, or favoritism, or even fucking your way to the top, later realizing-that won't keep you there. If you haven't played the position of a subordinate at some point in your line of work, it can be kind of hard to identify with the people you want to control so badly.

Do you know someone like this?

We all do. Dealing with people like this can sometimes be just a really long bitter fight, all because they have a sense of entitlement given to them by the same person who gave them power. But I have learned not to give them any more of it. I am the only one who is ultimately decisive over my reality. Not an over grown child in a management position. I'm no doctor, but this blog is what I see from my personal experience with someone who suffers from the "Power abuse syndrome". People who abuse their authority are in a fraudulent state of control. People who have no direction or control of their own life, will always want to command others and keep them beneath them in roles of potential. Someone who has earned their right to delegate and be a leader has respect for the work ethic and wouldn't corrupt it because of their own personal issues.

That would be the next question..why do people abuse their power? Who the fuck are these people that harm or exploit others? Just because they are fortunate to have been given, related to, or sexual with the real position of power, doesn't mean maltreatment should be involved. Maybe that's what it is. Knowing that the power you were given, was given to you by someone greater than you, and it is probably unattainable by you. Or maybe, just maybe, we are dealing with some child hood issues? Neglect? Or, how about my favorite reasoning.."Narcissistic Personality Disorder". That's is when one is extremely preoccupied with themselves. Major self-importance issues. It makes perfect sense why someone like this would abuse a position of higher rank. They don't want anyone else to be more important and/or more successful than them, because God forbid..someone else becomes important.

So how does one stop a person who takes advantage of an inherited, unearned, force?

Nothing.

What do you possibly think you can do to stop a bull in a china shop from breaking everything around them? Even at a bull's most calmest state, it is an over sized raging animal that has been placed in a position where it does not belong and anything it touches, breaks. Eventually, these people who have to constantly flex to prove their position will shatter everything around them. You know, the karmic energy and all that blah blah blah, will definitely catch up. Remember, their power is ADOPTED. The person who gave it to them is likely to have been the person who birthed it. They are the only ones who can take it away. So, when in the midst of a raging bull, don't think your moral conduct can stop it, a power tripper won't acknowledge ethics, if they don't even know such ethics exist.

P.S. Kissing ass, showing fear, not standing up for yourself, or doing things you have no business doing, just because an authoritative figure told you to, are ALL ways of giving someone too much power. :o)

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Pick One.

Ok, why is this not hard for me? If I had to pick two, I'd pick "good looking" and "intelligent".

First lets address the Good Looking aspect. Image is everything, whether we like it or not. It consumes the reason of judgment from others 90% of the time. How we look is a presentation. Now I'm not talking drop dead stunning gorgeous. I'm talking someone who is well put together and appealing. Being good looking doesn't mean you have to be a Ford model. It just shows that you put effort into your appearance. And people can tell and appreciate when you're putting energy into your presence. I don't liken myself to a Megan Fox, or Halle Berry. But I do try to be pleasing and not too hard on the eye. And I would prefer that over being unattractive any day. That may sound shallow, but if I had the choice of choosing whats easier, then that is what I would do. And being good looking, usually helps rather than hinders, most of the time.

Second choice..Intelligence. I think this choice goes without saying. When I learn something new, I'm always so eager to pass it on. That is why I remain a novice at most things I experience. I'm open to new knowledge, constantly. Intelligence doesn't just rest on collegiate attributes or the encyclopedia Britannica. Going through everyday relations and activity can nourish the reasoning's going on in your head. Most of the things I'v learned have been from other great minds and findings. Which all leads to better understanding and appreciation for growth and intelligence. So, therefore if I could wake up and have the ultimate intellect, then DAMN IT, I would!

The reason I did NOT pick emotionally stable, is probably because I don't know what that really means. One of the most bitter sweet things about me is that I am emotional. I'm carefree with my feelings and don't mind expressing them as I see fit. I'm not implosive in the least bit, as a matter of fact I think that it is unhealthy. So, to me, I think there is no such thing. You can't stabilize emotion, only your actions. If you're in l-ve, try controlling that. If you're furious, try controlling that. You can not. But what you can control is, how you deal with it. Kicking a wall, is probably more responsible than kicking some one's ass. But kicking a wall doesn't mean that you are any less angry, just means you channeled it differently. Being emotionally stable, for me, would mean, taking that long journey down the yellow brick road, to Oz, to find a heart. If you have the ability to feel, or have any kind of sensation towards something or some ONE, just know that you can't control that. Point being, there wasn't three options for me. Being emotionally stable isn't real to me. If it was, than I guess it would be like..being numb. And I'm not feeling that.

No pun intended.

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With Brook Lynne in Mind..

I want to share something briefly..

When I was in high school, I ALMOST didn't graduate. My 5th period class was the dreaded Geometry, which I flunked the year before. I don't know if it was my lack of interest in triangles, or if I was just not at all good at the subject. Either way, for about 2 quarters I'd skip my 5th period Geometry class and sit in Mrs. Smith's class, English as Lit. We generally skip class, to go home, or do something naughty, but for me, I skipped to be nourished. I l-ved English class, and I l-ved the way Mrs. Smith delivered the message in all her classes. I'd sneak in her class and sit in the back. Sometimes she didn't see me, other times she deliberately ignored me. Needless to say, my Geometry class was severely neglected, and because I had carelessly flunked the subject the year before, I needed the credits this senior year to graduate with my class. The English teacher started to feel a little compromised that she was housing a truant student and told me "Monica, you can't sit in here anymore, you have to go back to your scheduled class."

So I did.

Within days of me returning to my scheduled 5th period class, my counselor called me into her office to tell me that I wouldn't be walking the line to graduate because I was failing Geometry, again. She said I could make it up in Summer School to get my diploma. I cried, of course, and I was so scared. My mom and brother had GED's so they never walked the line either. I would be the first. So I had to fix this. I begged my Geometry teacher for days to help me pass, my mom even sent her flowers! God bless her because she gave me a second, third and eighth chance, and gave me a ton of extra credit work. This brought my grade up to a D. And I walked the line with my peers.

True story.

I don't think my l-ve for English and/or writing, occurred to me until the last couple of years. I compromised my high school diploma so that I could be enriched by a subject that I just couldn't get enough of. Some would probably say, I am taking the same risk now. Who knows how well this book I am writing will do. But, I have skipped many classes of StripClub 101 to complete this project that I l-ve. I hope I graduate, but until then, maybe my supporters can help me with some extra credit..

www.WithBrookLynneinMind.com

Where you can Pre Order my book!

Thanks, Mrs. Smith.

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Friend?

The one question that I am getting tired of hearing is..

"If you caught your friend's boyfriend out with another girl, would you go back and tell your friend?"

WHAT!!? Fucking right. I would tell a friend of mine anything that concerned her emotional well being. That is what friends do. So why is this question even being asked?

At what point do you battle with your conscious about something that can and will hurt someone that you call yourself devoted to? It really does annoy me that people really ask this question with some kind of genuine concern. As if it isn't protocol to be loyal to a real friend. Now, lets be clear, I am not talking about a casual acquaintance or some sort of associate that you know through work. I am talking about someone you call, consider and l-ve as a friend.

In matters of friendship, nothing that is considered protective, is questionable. Some people are scared to put themselves in the position to "rat out" a dirty boyfriend. Some are worried that their friend won't believe them, or they are worried that even after they break the devastating info, that the they will still stay together. But why does that even matter? What she does with the info after its been delivered is up to her. Even if she gets upset with you, for telling you the truth, just goes to show-she wasn't a real friend. But trust me, you will sleep better knowing that she found out from you, and not some casual associate who did your job, just to see her miserable.

I had a friend of mine tell me that she wouldn't tell me because she wouldn't want to get involved. Which confused me, because as two people who are companions(me and her), doesn't that automatically make us involved? She rationalized it with a story about how she got involved before and there was a bad reaction. Regardless, it saddens me to know that she wouldn't go out on that limb for me, as I would do for her. Because I thought that's what being friends was about. I knew I'd do it for her, given the opportunity, but unfortunately, because of bad choices her previous friends made, meant I would have to worry about her secrecy in matters that concerned me.

I just really dislike this question because every time I hear the answers, it puts placement values on people's heads. If you answer that question incorrectly, I know what kind of friend you are, and that sucks. I will say that there are exceptions to every rule, and in those cases, I can understand withholding that kind of info. But for the most part, some of you, need to re-evaluate who is truly your friend so that you won't have to question the simple behavior of loyalty.

Bottom line, if you have to ask that question, then it is either one of two things. Either she is not really your friend, or you are not hers.

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